I have issues with comparing. Shocker! I know. 😉
Comparing can be very bad. I unfairly judge myself, my life and my Daddy.
It is bad when I believe that everyone else is having hot wild sex several times a day and I’m not. Don’t laugh! Some people really are. Ok maybe they aren’t. I am not one to embellish the truth or make it seem my life is something that it is not. So I guess I don’t always see that others’ lives are not exactly as they portray.
It is bad when I envy what someone else has. What I am not realizing is that it really doesn’t suit me and if I had it I probably wouldn’t like it. Some things should remain fantasy.
Comparing can also be good. It can be a relief when you find you are not alone. It helps to find that others feel the same way or deal with the same struggles. It can be comforting to read a blog post that takes something in your life and clarifies it in a way you hadn’t thought of before.
I need to focus on the comparisons that make me feel better instead of worse. I need to stop and realize that this person may be blowing smoke or talking about their own fantasy. If I am having a hard time keeping that in check then I need to minimize myself from the source until I can think about it rationally. I should surround myself with those that are real and supportive.