My submission is given not demanded.
I was thinking this morning of how I would react if someone saw what I do for him and made some comment of “That’s the way a woman should be.” I would be defensive. I don’t think that is the way women should be. I could never serve a man purely out of expectation. I would rebel against that as I did for many years. Problem was he never expected it or demanded it.
Thinking along those lines of given and not demanded I realized the same premise holds true for how we carry out our D/s. He doesn’t feel the need for a list of rules. There are very few things he has requested as “rules” and he is increasingly more comfortable with asking me to do something for him. It is up to me to find ways to serve him. He humbly accepts what is freely given.
So when I may feel frustrated that he isn’t laying down the law i need to remember that my submission is not expected or demanded it is freely given.