I have tried to explain to others why I can be upset after a quick play session. I’m often told Well maybe he just wanted to satisfy his needs. I would be ok with that. I could fulfil that need but that is almost never his intent. He is happy when I get as much out of sex as him. He takes pleasure in pleasing me. So when I am not getting pleasure from sex he isn’t happy. I’m not upset because I didn’t get pleasure but that I failed in fulfilling his intent.