We are learning this as we go and as much as I read Daddy equally does not. Lol It bothered me BAD in the beginning. Occasionally now I get a twinge of jealousy but honestly he is doing amazing on his own. Yes things might be moving at a quicker pace if he was into the reading and planning but he likes to figure stuff out on his own and the slower pace means our changes stick.
Last night I really needed some little time. All of the graduation festivities are over and I just wanted to color. After dinner was cleaned up I asked Daddy if I could put my pj’s on. We have no rule where I have to do that. Daddy is very relaxed and mostly lets me do as I want. So when I feel the need for some control I ask for permission to do things. I don’t need to get it but I want it. Last night when I asked he said “Yes but I want to approve them first.” That was new. 🙂 So I got out a pair and he approved them. I asked if I could color next to him while he worked. “Yes go get a book and I will pick out a page.” He picked a page and I colored on my blanket next to him. When I showed him my finished work he praised it as usual and then said “Would you like a sticker?” :O Oh Hell Yes!! “YES!” “Ok go pick one but bring it to me first. Don’t stick it yet.” I ran to the sticker bin while holding my boobs. You can’t run with no bra on. It hurts. 😉 I grabbed a sheet of shiny foil hearts and ran back (while holding the boobs). I showed it to him and he asked which one I wanted. “All of them” I grinned. He pointed to one and said “I like that one.” So I peeled that one off and started to put it over my nipple and he shook his head No. I put it higher on my shirt.
My excited reactions were obvious positive reinforcement for his efforts but this morning I also texted him thanking him for last night. He asked “The coloring?”. I told him I liked him approving my pj’s, and picking my coloring page and the sticker.
Ask for what you want and give positive reinforcement. You are the best teacher for your relationship.