I think I found my “in” in regards to speaking with my daughter. It is probably best to break down the things I want her to think about it smaller topics and not just dump on her all the ways I think she is wrong. Lol Yeah generally NOT a good idea.
I think I will begin with respect. I thought I knew what this meant but I know now that I really did not in terms of how I was treating Daddy.
I found this article that I will send her first.
It sums it up with five ways that we can show respect or disrespect to our men.
#1 is respecting their judgment Last night she said that her fiance is getting a lot of grief over their decision to get married. These are two very smart kids that upon reaching their goals will both have doctorate degrees. He is being treated like he is irrational and irresponsible.
I will point out how he doesn’t feel his judgement is being respected and how he really needs to know that his future wife has his back. Possibly a gentle nudge to maybe look at ways she may not be showing respect in some of these forms.
I may point out ways I was not respecting her father and how I have worked to change them. I know that the kids can tell things are different between Daddy and I. I feel the need to point out the reasons but I feel I will have to leave the submission talk out. Most of the things are not exclusive to D/s. They are things that should be a part of any relationship. D/s is just the vessel that made me see them. If I bring up submission this kid will tune me out or yell about sexist traditions. So much like her mother. I have to try to undo some of what I’ve done.