Feminism vs. Femininity

Feminism is the belief that women should have equal rights and opportunities. Femininity is defined as the quality or nature of the female sex. The terms aren’t interchangeable and yet so many seem to mix them up.

Feminism has taken on a negative connotation. It isn’t about man hating or being “butch”. There are those that spew hatred toward men and that is sad but not indicative of the entire group. I believe that the “fight for equality” puts many men on the defense. It isn’t about taking you down it is about getting equal opportunities and equal pay for our work. It is about being seen and recognized as an equal co-worker not being judged on our feminine qualities.

Feminists do not have a dress code. Plenty of feminist women dress femininely. Again two different things. The main point is a woman in the workforce is there to WORK not be your eye candy.

In my book saying you are against feminism or not out right saying it but referring to it in a derogatory manner is the same as saying you are racist. You believe it is ok to discriminate against someone based on a factor of color, sex or sexual identity. Knowledge and experience are not put before race or gender.

How feminine you like your women is a personal preference and belongs in your personal life. It has no business deciding the fate of the female population.

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12 thoughts on “Feminism vs. Femininity

  1. I totally agree. I see so much at the moment that seems to confuse the two. Some men seem really angry about the way they see the world but as I see it we all have choices about how we choose to live and who we choose to live with. I think if you aren’t happy with your situation then you should change it.

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  2. I think extreme “feminists” have warped the meaning of feminism for the general populace. I know it means equality for everyone, but it feels like the definition is “women should be treated equally and men need to be put in their place for being horribly oppressive.” There are those who don’t even want to hear support from white heterosexual men, they should be compliant and silent because they couldn’t possibly understand the pain and struggles of women and other oppressed minorities. I fee the social justice warriors are making it an us vs them battle instead of trying to promote understanding and compassion. We all deserve equality and the opportunity to strive for the job we want be it in the workforce or at home regardless of gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, age, etc. And I think the only way this is going to happen is if we all work together to educate and unite people.

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  3. The problem is that feminism takes a stance on femininity. Make no doubts, if you are stay-at-home or girly you are judged. If you are in the submissive category, you are judged. Feminist are quick to place labels to undermine arguments and judge. Rascism has nothing to do with feminism; there is a separate ‘sexist’ word for that. To say you do not support the black panthers does not make you racist. Likewise, to believe in equal rights of the sexes does not mean you support feminism. I find it most disheartening how “feminists” turned on Emma Watson for her photo shoot after her clear fight for equal rights, yet she was supposed to have choice. She did. It fit the agenda so her choices are actually limited. Feminism is not about equality, it has a specific agenda for what a woman should be. It’s just another group telling you what to do; women instead of men this time. – Beast

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    • By your categorization of feminists, you stereotype all women who claim that philosophy. I would identify as a feminist, and everyone who knows me would agree with that designation. I would not fit any of your other descriptions of feminist, other than my personal identification as a woman who believes I am COMPLETELY equal to a man. In no way does that diminish my personal feminine qualities or make me less “girly.” However, believing in equality also means giving women free agency over their bodies, choices for employment, and sexual preferences, among many other things. What we don’t need more of is men mansplaining what be a feminist or being feminine is to women.

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    • Feminism may be the term for the social movement for equality but it is not a defined group like the Black Panthers. National Organization for Women, Women’s Liberation Union those are feminist groups. The Feminists were an extreme radical group but they disbanded in the early 70’s and I do not think most feminists identify with their ideas. I do wonder if that is where the term took a turn. No doubt that there are radical feminists but they do not represent all. We cannot not be generalized.

      Founders of early groups wanted women to still wear dresses and maintain feminine aspects but that did not sit well younger members. As with anything, you are not going to get everyone to agree. Women can be quite vicious and sadly, we are often our own worst enemy. Sexuality is also a major hang up that plays a lot into the attacks. The heart of feminism is advocating for women’s equal rights. As far as I am concerned, you could do that as stay at home mom that makes money selling topless photos.

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      • A well thought out response. I agree that feminism is not an official group but an ideology. Ideals do change just as our country’s view of socialism is changing; yet there is a expectation of what being a socialist means. I fear there is an divide in feminism that is taken over by the extremis. Rational discussion breaks down and leads down a path of voicing cliches to defend itself. The impact of the voice is real despite being decentralized. Breast cancer receives six times the funding as the most deadly cancer (lung) per patient death because it is seen as supporting women; yet more women (and everyone) die of lung cancer every year. To voice this fact is unpopular and spreads irrational alarm which is why it is only discussed in medical circles. We can’t speak up for risk of backlash as cancer funding has become political. It is mindless irrationality in an ideology that makes it dangerous and where progression and discussion breaks down.

        I realize this discussion is on your blog and I do hope that I have not offended you. To disagree and remain amicable is a great quality the world needs more of. -Beast

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    • We are currently where we are due to outspoken women that have influenced the perception of the movement. In order to change the negative perception we need women to be unafraid to stand up and say they are feminist. This is not about misandry, defining what a woman should be, or tearing each other apart for our choices. Women still earn less than men earn and are passed over for promotions. I get that discrimination of all types is everywhere but we do not change anything by being passive. I refuse to throw out the whole movement based on a faction of the group.

      I choose to serve in submission to my Daddy and I am a feminist.

      **Your last comments pended for approval due to the links in them. I felt the rest was personal and I am not going to approve them. If I allowed them, I would need to allow for rebuttal and I chose to end it here. I am closing comments on this post.

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  4. I did not say women do not deserve equal treatment. I did not say you could not be feminist and feminine; although it is discouraged by your own philosophy. There is no one who puts greater limits on what you can do with your body than feminists; please see how Emma Watson was attacked for a photo shoot while claiming the feminist philosophy by feminists.

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    • What does the media attention and negative comments about Emma Wilson have to do with being a feminist? Those were not my comments, nor comments of any friend I know who also identifies as holding feminist ideals. The crux of the modern feminist movement is personal choice. Stereotyping does nothing to advance equality of either gender.

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      • To openly follow an ideology is to label and stereotype yourself; the definition is “a SET of NORMATIVE beliefs.” My argument is that the crux of the modern feminist movement is not choice but the right choice. Negative comments by feminists about a self proclaimed feminist for taking revealing pictures is a valid argument for the fact that you do not have choice without judgement by the very individuals who claim to be giving you choice. – Beast

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