Monika Carless did a Facebook post with this quote and talked about the importance in finding your tribe. Tribe makes a little more sense than my poly friendship concept. 😆
The quote really struck me. Loneliness isn’t necessarily having no one around but having no one around that you can share your true identity with. A feeling of being unable to be your authentic self. When you are unable to share your truths, your desires, what brings you great joy and also your pain it creates a sense of being alone in the world.
I think maybe a lot of the time the friends we make “in real life” or the family we socialize with don’t always know the real us. We don’t feel comfortable sharing because we think we know what their opinion would be based on the years of knowing them. It can feel safer to just go along with your public persona.
That is the beauty of the internet. You can search out groups for just that aspect that you want to share but don’t feel safe doing in person. You can make new friends that don’t have a specific image of you already set in their minds.
I am so very grateful for the tribe of friends I have made. They don’t all know each other but they are my web of friendships. They have unique perspectives and lend support in their own ways. They know more of the real me than anyone besides Daddy. They understand the most important thing about me – the depth of my relationship with Daddy. Having friends know and accept that means I am a lot less lonely.