I was reading something the other day and there was a comment something like they want to be dominated more than they want to submit.
I think I could have used that question throw an at me a few times along this journey and maybe I did but not in those terms.
Yes I want to be dominated, usually. I think that is the hot fantasy thoughts but what I desire more is to submit to him.
I need to please him, to be his good girl and make him happy. I want that more than I want him to give me a list of rules to follow. If I need a little extra control I ask for it. I ask permission for a snack or to put my pj’s on. I ask him to take my shoes off or to reach something in the cabinet. I don’t have to wait on his dominance. I actively submit.