I believe the saying that things keep coming up until you learn the lesson. Great let’s deal with “this”. I want to learn my lesson NOW so that “this” stops coming back. Whenever I encounter “this” I force myself to stay in the situation. I don’t want to avoid it but to face it head on. Sounds noble but honestly withdrawing causes “that” to come up. So it’s “this” or “that”.
What if the lesson I am supposed to learn isn’t how to make “this” go away or “that” for that matter. What if the lesson is that “this” and “that” is how I am and I need to learn coping skills. I need to give myself permission to be me even when I don’t like it and give myself some grace.